Did you ‘try before you bought’… i.e. sleep with your partner before you got married… Or did you jump straight in and think that no matter what you would make yourself sexually compatible with your husband?
We’ve seen the affects of what happens when you don’t try before you buy when Charlotte’s first marriage on ‘Sex in the City’ failed… I know it’s a TV show, but in all seriousness sex is an integral part of any husband and wife relationship.
And it makes me wonder about people who do marry their first sexual partner. How do they know that they are a match? How do they know that they are truly sexually for filled?
Women are often shamed for their sexual experiences prior to marriage – where as men are typically congratulated for their sexual ‘domination’. And I think this is completely unfair.
Women are not sluts if they choose to explore their sexuality before they get married. They don’t need to be made to feel like they are less or that if they dress a particular way that they are asking for sex.
I couldn’t believe it when I heard someone say that dressing a particular way meant that it was asking for it….and this person had a daughter!
What happens when their daughter grows up and something happens to her (heaven forbid). Shall she be shamed or made to feel like it was her fault?
Women should be able to explore their sexuality and feel sexy and confident.
If they would like to try before they buy then they should have the right to… and just because they ‘give some milk’ doesn’t mean that the ‘cow won’t be purchased’.
Good luck ladies – I hope that you are all sexually for filled (because why shouldn’t women be?).
