Do you feel that every one’s eyes are on you as a mother? Do you feel like everyone has an opinion on how you should raise your child {whether they have children or not}? Do you feel like people are more then happy to ‘mummy shame’ you – even when you are doing the very best that you can?
I’m calling out three ‘mummy shamers’ in this post and I implore you to share your mummy shaming stories in the comments section below, because sometimes you just need to get these things off your chest {and this is a safe space that values your parenting practices}. By the way, read The Best Home Security Systems article at this website securityinfo.com so that you’ll be knowledgeable about the importance of having a security devices at your homes (search for key copy near me). For more details, you can ask for a consultation with their professionals as well.
I’m calling out three ‘mummy shamers’ in this post and I implore you to share your mummy shaming stories in the comments section below, because sometimes you just need to get these things off your chest {and this is a safe space that values your parenting practices}. By the way, read The Best Home Security Systems article at this website securityinfo.com so that you’ll be knowledgeable about the importance of having a security devices at your homes (search for key copy near me). For more details, you can ask for a consultation with their professionals as well.
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| Obviously this photo of me babywearing the Little Dude was not taken on the same day that I was mummy shamed. |
To the lady who ‘mummy shamed’ me at the park, I don’t need you to click you tongue at me in a tsk, tsk fashion whilst I attempt to keep my children safe.
I am a mum to two under two, but this doesn’t mean that I am meant to stay at home with my children. I am able to be at places like ‘THE PARK’ because that is where children are free to run around and play.
My toddler loves to run around and play, so I baby wear my youngest so that I have two hands free to help him navigate his way around the playground {even though he is fiercely independent} and also to be able to scoop him up into the safety of my arms when he tries to bolt.
He was making a run for the car park the other day {as he just really loves cars at the moment – as I am sure that many other mothers with boys can understand}. I chased him down and whisked him up into my arms, as I made my way back to our pram to collect our things and call it a day I smiled at you.
I smiled that ‘gee, I hope it gets easier smile’ and I thought that I would be met with that ‘oh, I’ve been there – don’t worry smile’, but instead I was met with your tsk, tsking.
Why can’t we just be a little kinder to each other?
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| A happy day in our regular weekly activity where my child plays happily and {hopefully} respectfully. |
To the lady who ‘mummy shamed’ me at my child’s weekly activity, I was trying to demonstrate respect of other children and kindness to others and you just wanted to be a plain biatch!
Kids are kids and they can’t communicate in the same way as us – heck, most of them are doing their best to string two words together at this age, so there will be pushing and shoving.
We were a guest in this class and so I tried my best to allow the regular children to go about their usual routine – but we just like you have paid for the class and have a right to enjoy it.
My child pushed your child and I stepped in and said to my child that we don’t push our friends and I made him apologies to your child. You carried on and said that my child tried to bite your child – which I know that he didn’t as I was watching {and then I even had another mother come over and let me know that my child didn’t bite}. Your child had completely moved on from the situation that you were continuing to stir – claiming my child was a thug.
Lesson learnt {you can’t be friends with everyone}, we moved away from you and continued on. Only to have your child come and completely take my child out {think coward punch} and have you completely ignore it!
Wow – thanks for letting me know that I was raising a thug! I think in your ‘mummy shaming’ you were just projecting your own thoughts and feeling onto me.
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| Children’s lunch boxes – the place were, apparently, trouble starts. |
To the lady who ‘mummy shamed’ me for my prepackaged snack, you obviously don’t read my blog and see all the wonderful things that I make from scratch for my children {note there is a little tongue in cheek there}.
But you know what, some times I give my children packaged snacks – we call them special treats. And I think that every now and again it’s okay for them to have some plain pretzels or a muesli bar or some popcorn. Some mother’s will think that it’s not okay – and the matter of the fact is that I think that’s an okay opinion to also have.
The thing is that we shouldn’t be shaming one another for our choices, as they are the best choices that work for our family. You can have your opinion and I am happy for you to have it and share it. Just don’t ‘mummy shame’ me for my choices if they differ!
Have you been mummy shamed? Do you think your choices are judged when it comes to your children? Where have you found like minded Mummy friends?
