In my mind I think that I would like to have four babies – four isn’t a number I have written in stone. I may be like Bern from Mamamia and stop at three… that’s when she knew her baby making days were over.
But I would like to have the ability to leave that number open. I may like to have two or three or four or even five or six. It’s just what works with our family dynamics at the time – and really, it’s what God chooses to bless us with.
I’ve seen families grow up with only children, I’ve know how it works with pairs, I’ve come from a family of three children, Phillip’s brother has four and both of my parents were one of five. Heck, at my baby shower my Nan told me that I should have six.
I understand that times have changed from when my parents were growing up and it is harder to ‘keep up with the Jones’ ‘ whilst raising a larger family. It means bigger homes, bigger cars, more expensive school fees, fewer opportunities for extra curricula activities and probably less holidays.
It’s no longer a case where you paid full price for your first, half price for your second, a quarter of the price for your third and your fourth was free down at the local catholic school.
But there is just something about a large family that appeals to me.
I just love being a mum.
I know that being a stay-at-home-mum doesn’t appeal to everyone, and I realize that over time my thoughts may change on this as well. But that’s what I am open to change! And I feel that all mums should be able to change their minds without judgment.
You wanted to have a large family, but found the pressure of two under two too much… so stopped and that’s all you ended up having – THAT’S OKAY.
You wanted to have three, but your husband pushed for a fourth and you were blessed with twins… be proud of your family and ignore what negative Nancy’s have to say.
You always dreamed of a family but your career got in the way or you never found the right person to settle down with – YOU’RE NORMAL.